Alternative Bouquet

I’ve written before about having fun choosing the perfect flowers for your wedding but what if you don’t want a traditional flower bouquet?

When I was planning my wedding, I didn’t want to do anything just because it’s the done thing. I decided against carrying a bouquet despite warnings from florists that I’d miss it (I didn’t) because I found the idea of handing it over to my sister when I reached the front clumsy and silly. I didn’t want the bouquet to end up as a table decoration. The tradition itself held no importance for me.

I knew I wanted flowers on me somehow though, so I experimented with real flowers in my hair, but ended up finding the perfect vintage silk flower to wear instead. My Mom made me a wrist corsage to wear so I could have flowers on me all day, even when kissing, hugging, and dancing. It worked out just right for me. Still, I wish I had researched my options more thoroughly because I’ve come across some really exciting alternatives to the traditional bouquet. I’m sneakily making a mental note of my new faves for a Renewal of Vows I might get to have in… 49 years 😉

source: newherbgarden.info

The tradition of carrying a bunch of flowers down the aisle comes from the belief that herbs could ward off evil spirits. Before bouquets became the ‘in’ thing, Brides wore herbs in their hair for this purpose. If you want to retain this tradition you could ask your Flower Girls or Bridesmaids to scatter herbs in your path so that you release their aromas as you walk over them. I’m a big fan of herbs, and if you love cooking, why not use herbs in place or alongside flowers to reflect your tastes? Herbs look great and smell great so it’s a win, win. If you want to wear flowers instead of holding them, you can wear a wrist corsage or pin flowers onto your dress. You can wear a garland around your neck or present each other with garlands or flowers as part of the ceremony.

Another reason for carrying a bouquet down the aisle is so that you have something to toss over your shoulder to over-excited female wedding guests hoping to be given a sign that they’re next to wed! However, the original significance of the tradition is that the Bride’s clothing and by extension items belonging to her were considered good luck. Therefore Brides, feel free to choose an alternative to the bouquet as your lucky offering.

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Finally, you might be struggling to think of an alternative to the bouquet to keep your hands from fidgeting as you make your big entrance. Maybe you’ll feel less self-conscious with something to hide behind. Maybe people have told you Brides look silly without bouquets in their hands. Here I can help!

So what are the alternatives?

If you want a bouquet shape without the flowers, replace the offending flowers with:

  • Buttonshttp://www.iheartbuttons.co.uk/#
  • Silk butterflies
  • Lolly pops
  • Sea shells
  • Feathers
  • Christmas baubles
  • Beads
  • Crystals
  • Macaroons
  • Bonbons

If you just want something to hold onto:

  • Umbrella

    My dear Dad escorting me down the aisle

  • Parasol
  • Dog lead
  • Dog/Cat
  • Balloon string
  • Magic Wand
  • Fairy Wand
  • Purse
  • Fan
  • Lantern
  • (my personal favourite) The arm or hand of the person giving you away

Lucky in Love

I’m not sure whether bridal charm of choice depends more on where you grow up, or family tradition. All I know is that I was adamant that on my wedding day I REALLY wanted a horseshoe. I don’t think I hinted to anyone that I was expecting/hoping for at least one trinket to dangle off my wrist, but boy did my family come through!

I hadn’t even considered how much I wanted wooden spoons until I was handed two. One had been lovingly handpainted by my sister and the other was fit for a Princess, white and glittery. From my Dad came the biggest, tackiest silver plastic horseshoe he could find. Good old Dad. From my Mom a much more restrained, gorgeous tiny gold horseshoe, and from my Uncle and Aunt a larger gold horseshoe embossed with hearts. Cousins on my new husband’s side gave me more modern interpretations of these good luck charms – wooden hearts on rope and letters on wire.

These good luck charms meant the world to me. I’m an old fashioned gal, and I know being adorned with a variety of clashing, clunking wrist furniture would not please every bride. For me though, the humblest wooden spoon filled me with an overwhelming sense of being loved. These offerings conveyed the sincerest of wishes for our marriage. They will be on show in my house always, as I will treasure them always.

Most of us know the rhyme ‘Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue’ but did you know there’s more? ‘A silver sixpence in your shoe’ is apparently part of the same ryhme. Traditionally, the Father of the Bride provides the sixpence for his daughter to wear in her shoe as she walks down the aisle. How lovely, I wish we had known that.

Horseshoes are said to be lucky for a number of superstitious reasons. As well as being said to ward off witches, and the devil himself, the metal iron is said to be lucky as is the very shape of the shoe, representing a crescent moon.

Wooden love spoons were made by men in Wales while courting. The spoons would be carved intricately to show the depth of feeling the hopeful gent held for the lady.

The four leaf clover doesn’t seem particularly associated with wedding luck, but is considered lucky because of its rarity. They carry lovely symbolism, with their leaves meaning in turn: faith, hope, love and luck. Very apt for a wedding then.

We wish newlyweds luck with our words and gifts without really believing that any amount of luck can really make for a successful marriage. Still, it is a caring sentiment to wish the happy couple the smoothest transition into their new lives together; to wish them no untoward misfortune as they make their way together as husband and wife; to wish them patience and resolve in times of difficulty. We wish Brides and Grooms luck in marriage, not luck in love, because they have already had that in finding in each other.